So it’s my 8 year wedding anniversary today and I’m feeling especially amorous!

Although these days, I always feel loving. I just love love!!! Anyways, I thought this would be a good day to expand upon my favorite topic, Love.

There are so many different types and levels of love – it’s so fascinating!! This may bring back some memories or give you some hope for the future! Let me know your thoughts too. Here are my thoughts on a few different types of love:

1.    Puppy Love: This is the first time you fall in love. And you are blown away that you can feel this way about another person. All you can think about is them. All you want to do is be with them. It’s all so much fun! Everything is bright and sunny! (At least in the beginning.) And it feels so good. You wonder, how can another person make me feel so good? How can I feel this amazing! It is a very sweet innocent type of love… for the most part. Everything is so new & fresh. It’s so exciting to fall in love for the very first time. Actually it’s pretty exciting to fall in love anytime…  But when it’s over, it’s so heartbreaking. You don’t know how you’ll ever recover… until it happens again! ☺

2.  First Significant Relationship Love: Wow, this one throws you for a doozie! You don’t know what hit you! You don’t know up from down. Your mind is mostly consumed by the person. You love to be with them… all the time. You are deeply in love. Yet, mostly confused. So many conflicting feelings & thoughts. You think, wow, how could love be so complicated? You want to love more, you want to love deeper, but you’re afraid. Is it for real? Will the other person love back the same? Will they care as much? How does this love thing really work? Or you throw your hands up in the air and just go with it. You want to do so many things together and go so many places together. So many plans for the future…

3.  Love for Husband/Wife: This can be a continuation of either of the 2 above. Things stabilize. The love feels more secure. You can see growing old with this person. You just want to be with them… no matter what. They make you laugh and cry and feel everything in between. You are deeply & passionately in love. Your love grows stronger. You grow together, you learn together, and you build a future. You get to know each other better everyday. You become best friends & you respect each other. You grow to love each other more each day. You learn how to support each other and love each other the way each wants. You act silly with each other. You do things you would never do in front of others… because you feel safe. You feel comfortable… like you are home. You share accomplishments, forks in the road, challenges and sorrows. You share all of it. You feel their bliss & their heartbreaks. You want to protect them from any harm. You always want them to be happy.

4.  Soul Mate Love: This can also be combined with any of the above. I don’t know if everyone finds a soul mate. Many people do. Many people just settle. Many people stop looking. But this is the kind of love that endures all time & space. It is everywhere when you feel it. It is a love you feel very deep in your heart and your soul and in every single cell of your body. This is a connection where you feel as if you are one with another being. You don’t know where you end and the other begins. When you’re together, it’s as if it’s magic. You don’t know how it happened. Most of the time, words are not even necessary. You just know how the other person feels and what they’re thinking and what they want and you just do it. You do it because it feels good for them and for you. And you want is to make them happy above all. And they know exactly how to love you, without being told. You love so deeply it almost hurts. It’s raw and real and beautiful and wild. It has no boundaries. It’s all about feeling the other person’s energy and being one with it… always. You feel what they feel. You hurt when they hurt. You are feel joy when they are joyful. You are willing to give them everything. You would give them the world if you could. They are your favorite thing to do in the world – meaning, if you were just with them and had no one or nothing else, it would be ok, because you love being with them so much. You would be ecstatic to only be with them. It’s the type of passion that sets you on fire forever. This type of love lasts for eternity.

5.  Love/Lust Confusion: This is a conundrum… This is what gets most people into trouble. We love the feeling of being wanted. And the feeling of wanting someone else… badly. The new excitement. The butterflies in the stomach. The nervous anticipation. The passion. The fun. We love feeling all of these exciting emotions – it’s a roller coaster. It’s the adrenaline rush that hooks us in. It’s the biochemical response in the body that makes us feel good and makes us want more. How can someone make me feel so much excitement? How can someone else make my body feel that way? Maybe something is awakened that has stayed dormant for a long time. Sometimes you learn new things about yourself. Things you didn’t know you were capable of feeling or doing or being. So you think, this must be it. I’ve never felt like this before. This must be the real thing… But is it?

6.  Love for Yourself: This is the most important love of all. One cannot love others fully until one learns to love oneself fully. This is the unconditional love that one must learn to give to oneself. Once you learn to love yourself unconditionally, with all of your perfection and imperfections, you will be free to love truly love others. Tell yourself how much you love yourself everyday. I love me! And now that I do, I find it so much easier to love others. I love all of the time. I just love. I’ve written more on this in another blog, so I won’t spend too much time here.

7.  Love for Your Children: As I don’t have children myself yet, this is how I imagine it to be. This is one of the deepest, most intense love most people will ever feel. When you have a child, they become your life. You live for them. They are so deeply a part of your heart and your soul – they almost completely take over – all of you. And you give all you can give, because they are part of you. They are you. And you would kill or die for them. You would do anything for them, make any sacrifice. You want to save them from feeling any pain, but you realize you can’t always do that. You love them so much it hurts.

8.  Love for Your Family: This love is interesting. You love your family sometimes because they are your family, your blood; they are related to you. You love them simply because they are your family, no matter what. But sometimes you don’t always love what they do or how they behave or who they are being. But you give them room to be who they need to be and then allow them to come back and be family. That’s the beauty of love for family. It is really always there. Sometimes, you may need to forgive and let go of the past in order to get back to it. But it is really always there. Remember that.

9.  Love for Your Friends: This is very special. And this can also be part of any of the above love. It’s the love you feel because you feel that very special connection with someone. You may just love them from the beginning or it’s the “like” that grows into love as time goes on. First, because of who they are. And then, because they are there for you – to listen to & share your fears, concerns, excitement, sadness & joy – and you share theirs just the same. These are the people you love to spend time with – because they share your same values and goals… or maybe just because they are fun and they make you laugh. Any of that – it’s whatever connects you. But the connection is definitely there and as long as it’s nurtured & respected, this love will endure.

10. Love for Humanity: This is the love that one feels for everyone… whether you know them or not. Because you understand that in the end, we are all really connected. I love everyone because I feel as though there is a piece of me that is the same that is in everyone else and there is a piece of everyone else that is the same that is within me. It’s like a little seed that connects all of us. We are all born with it. It is our job to water and nourish that seed. To let that connection grow strong. There is divinity within all of us. That’s what I love about everyone. I see that beauty and divinity within everyone. We all just want to be loved after all. That’s what we all want in the end. So I love… everyone.

So this is love… so many different types and levels. And I’ve really only touched on a little bit of it really. Love is so sweet and magical and powerful. Let yourself feel it. Be with it. Be love. We all have love in common… in one, way, shape or form, we love. Don’t be selfish with your love. Don’t be afraid of it – it is really the most spectacular feeling in the world! Don’t deny yourself; don’t deny us. Just love. Put it out there! You will be amazed by how much comes back to you!

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
~ Corinthians

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